Hello my lovelies ! Back in 2023 and 2024, I was a bridesmaid and, by extension, the organizer of bachelorette party. Let me share my traumas with you… sorry, I mean, my personal guide to making this event memorable for both the bride and the guests. Advices here also apply for bachelor party. Let's go !
Organizing team
Guest list
Contact the bride as soon as possible to get a list of the people she’d like to have with her at her bachelorette party. The list include names and phone numbers.
Budget
Be mindful of everyone’s pockets! In any group, there’s always one person with an unlimited budget and another who’s more careful with money. Since the goal is for EVERYONE to have a good time, the first step is to agree on the overall budget for the event. Everyone must explicitly agree to this (by replying to the text message with “Yes, I agree”). And once agreed upon, we stick to it.
Effective and concise communication
Choose simple tools that everyone uses. Generally speaking, everyone uses WhatsApp. You should therefore create a group chat with all the guests to share information there. Send summary messages and confirm that everyone has received and understood them. For example, a text message that includes: date, location, time, useful link (if needed), and address.
Organizational subgroup
If there are several of you organizing the event, this group, which is different from the main group, will allow you to make the initial decisions before sharing the summary with the main group. It’ll also serve as space to crashout / scream in peace in a small group setting—which is definitely needed, hehe.
Activities and commercial breaks
The best advice I can give you is to pay attention, in other words,read the room ! If the bride is very religious, avoid Magic Mike kind of vibe. If the bride is pregnant or has recently given birth, avoid marathon outings or tree-top adventure courses. If guests are on a tight budget, avoid a VIP weekend in Monaco with champagne, limousines, and spa treatments that will break the bank for everyone. You know what I mean.
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Real-life examples
Regarding the two weddings I was telling you about. In the first case, the bride was finalizing the wedding decorations, so we organized a workshop at a florist’s shop. Our creations (dried flower bouquets) were later used as table decorations on the wedding day. The bachelorette weekend also included brunch, a spa, a karaoke restaurant, and a dancehall party (we kept is *halal*). For the second one, the bride is an artist, so we attended a workshop at Céramicafé Geneviève (here's a link to their website) and we went to a Harry Potter escape room. She loved it.
For guests
Please meet response deadlines
I'm gonna hold your hand while I tell you this: STICK TO THE RESPONSE DEADLINES! OK? When we ask for your feedback “by Wednesday at 12:00 PM,” that doesn’t mean “the following Sunday at 11:30 PM.” There’s always a reason behind a deadline: an activity that will be booked for 1:00 PM, a time slot to reserve, rates that depend on the number of guests. SO if the organization team asks you to reply by noon, you do it. Got it?
Tip: Give the WhatsApp message a “thumbs up” once you've read it.
Suck it up
This isn’t about you : The focus is on the bride. So petty fights, disrespectful behaviours, and tantrums are off-limits. In a group of people, you don’t necessarily know or even like everyone. So swallow your pride and prioritize getting along. Note that, it’s only for a weekend. Show up with a smile on you face, or don’t come at all.
No refunds
For all activities where the price is shared among participants (such as a rentals), last-minute cancellations are not permitted. Why? If a group of 10 people agrees to pay 33 euros per person and 5 of them cancel at the last minute, it creates chaos. The guests agreed to pay for the 33e but not the 75e (if the costs are split, and in any case, the bride doesn't pay). If you still have to cancel, consider the money lost.
General note
Don’t do anything that could have the wedding cancelled. Avoid getting arrested, ending up in the hospital, or vanishing into thin air… in short, avoid Very Bad Trip type of drama alright?
Final words
Well, I’m done stepping on necks… I mean, I’m done sharing my experience ^_^ hehe. In conclusion, whether you’re on the planning team or the guest side, our shared goal is to make sure the bride and groom have a memorable time. And to do so, everyone needs to do their part. So good luck with the planning, and brace yourselves!
xo, Mama
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Super idée l’escape game Harry Potter! Je savais pas que y’avait ça! Tu partages?Ce serait bien d’avoir une liste bons plans 👀 sur les différents escape game/endroits retro games!
Avec plaisir: le lieu c’est « TEAM BREAK » situé au 44rue Dunkerque,75009 Paris. Il faut choisir « MAGIC SCHOOL ».